31 Days: Let’s Just Be Honest Day 18: Loneliness in Church


Let’s just be honest: Sometimes we feel lonely in church.  Unfortunately, that’s just a true statement.  Regardless of church size, it’s actually very easy to feel alone in church.  It’s easy to walk in, sit and listen and just get up and walk out without ever really talking to anyone.  Sometimes this is nice.  There’s security in being anonymous.   No one has to really get to know you, learn all about your junk or hurt you.  Sometimes you just don’t even know what to say to someone.  Depending on where you sit you might say hi to some of the same people every week, but you don’t really go deep with them.  That can change, if you want it to.  There are some really very practical things you can do to make your Sunday morning church experience a different one.  Here’s what I do:


In that hour before you leave, when you are getting ready for church, focus your heart and mind on others.  Pray.  Ask God to focus your heart outward and onto other people instead of being focused on yourself and having an attitude of ‘what can they do for me’.  Think of 1-2 specific people you can look for and encourage.  Let them know you’ve been thinking of them or praying for them.  Ask them how ‘X’ is going in their life.  Or just ask them what they’ve been up to all weekend.   Make your mind shift from being inward focused to outward.  Although the experiences we have with God in service, worshiping and listening are very personal, everything else about church can be shifted from focusing on yourself to focusing on others.  You can be the person to walk up to someone new and say ‘hi’.  Even if they’ve been there 4 week already, you haven’t met them and it’s a good thing for you to do that. Do you remember what it was like to be the new guy in church?  How awkward and alone that felt?  You can change that feeling for someone this Sunday when you go to church.

What person or people do you want to connect with this Sunday?

What encouraging thing can you say to them?

I’ll be thinking through these same questions and doing this with you to come Sunday morning!!!

3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Trackback: 31 days of Let’s Just Be Honest: Intro | Moms Encouraging Moms
  2. Virginia Craven
    Oct 18, 2013 @ 12:56:51

    Thanks Holly, you know I need that encouragement:)


  3. Holly Dennis
    Oct 18, 2013 @ 17:04:05

    Ha! You’re really good at connecting with people one on one!


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